Stay inside! Download Tinder. Just go with it.
I've always been interested in the hook up culture in college. Some would argue that such doesn't exist because everyone's having sex and always has. Real talk now. It exists and it's different from 1988. Technology - whether it's pornographic movies or social media - facilitates the learning about and having sex readily available. I won't get up on my technological soap box and write about how women should be reflective in their sexual relationships especially if everyone is doing it. However, I'd like for us to be aware that the means which allow us to connect with others.
Individual case study: TINDER. It is a location-based social discovery app, which facilitate communication through messages between mutually interested users. Did you know it started at a USC party?! So telling.
I spoke on a panel once about sexual health and awareness in college. And while I'm a year removed from the epicenter of the sexual activity hub, I know that women still feel compelled to keep up with the practices and expectations of their counterparts. Men don't want to be tied so women follow lead. Hooking up is a social phenomena and from personal experience and anecdotes, heterosexual women conform to these practices over and over again consequently because they have found that it's the only way to connect with heterosexual men at an intimate level. As in, guys aren't asking gals on dates anymore. It's become such common practice that people aren't really being all that thoughtful, intentional, and reflective about it.
This Tinder app - it's new, catchy, and it's changing the pace of the game. It's making it faster than the meeting someone at a party or bar to hook up. It's easier and more accessible to have casual sexual relationships therefore making it a little bit harder to find people who want to be in monogamous relationships. Tinder depersonalizes the process by allowing uses to remain anonymous and still check out the prospects!
I know I'm making a lot of assumptions here. For example, that people on Tinder are looking for attractive, maybe people with the same interests (long shot) to hook up with. Yes, there are some users who are looking to just make friends or potentially date, but let's be real, that's a small percentage. It's the same social script that exists in going to parties and bars but on a technological, impersonal, almost anonymous level.
If you and this other Tinder user both swipe right, you're interested each other - as in you like the way the other looks in their photos. You do the same thing at bar or party - you're eye-ing the prospects. If you really like what you see, you might send them a message. Party scene: say hello or dance with them (start grinding on them without permission!). So, begins the flirting, the "what are you up tos", the wanna hang out invitation to something more. What makes Tinder interesting is that you don't have to be drunk to initiate the hook. When we talk about college hook up culture, alcohol consumption is a central competent of the formula.
You can be using Tinder on a work day and can plan to meet up with someone else later that day. You can be bored on a Friday night, start Tindering, and your night that contained no plans can lead to one of the best hook ups you've ever had...or worst.
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